As a result, in some ways, homosexuals may be responsible for the position they find themselves in. (Not that homosexual people are responsible for instigating their ostrazation, but that they don’t do much to help the case against their aggressors.) Sexuality, contrary to popular opinion, is only one aspect of being human, but many members of the homosexual community wear their sexuality on their sleeves instead of incorporating it into the rest of their personality (this is, of course, assuming that sexuality does not define personality). Like I said when I began, these are thoughts from the outside, but it seems to me that gay-pride parades, flamboyant clothing, and drag shows are not necessary parts of a homosexual lifestyle. Why must being homosexual include participation in these activities when they only serve to perpetuate and reinforce the negative stereotypes some people have about them? Granted, not all homosexual individuals participate in drag shows and parades, but those who do affect the way those who are more moderate are perceived.
I just came from a comedy club. One of the comediennes made a comment about how much fun our community can make a protest. When she said that, I remembered one of the protest I had attended, I happened to turn around and a guy was spraying this huge bottle of cologne on, I remember he smiled at me sheepishly, I laughed and he said, "grrl, you know I can't stink under this sun". I remember another protest, I was walking in front of two girls, and I overheard, "Cathy" (yes) "if we do all the protests, we can actually lose weight" (the answer was a mumble) Laughter erupted, including me as I turned around to tell them I had just been thinking about that.
No matter what, people will never understand where we come from. Let me give a few examples. Look up Jerry Lewis and homosexuals. What about the stories of getting beat-up in school? We either were the laughing stock of school or the punching bag. We have been hated, condemned to hell, sometimes even by those that are supposed to love us unconditionally. We have endured a lot. This is common amongst us. The majority of times, it might be one person out of a hundred that will do something, and somehow the whole hundred did it. I can sit here and tell you that the media and the religious zealots have a lot to do with what follows us, but why? That is a losing battle.
We have learned to enjoy our life. We have learned to laugh together. We have learned to laugh at ourselves. We don't walk around stiff. We find solace with our friends. We find love and "family" with those that understand what we feel deep down inside. Most importantly, we all accept each other. When we come together, as in gay-prides, we all let lose, meaning our guards are left at the entrance. We laugh, we smile and we enjoy our company. Those on the outside can say whatever they say, because they will say it anyway, they have their own agenda: to smear us.
Now let's consider the "heterosexual" world. How many times do we hear about rape? How many times do we hear about crazy ass parties and what happens there? Look at the Craigslist.org personal ads under men seeking women and women seeking men. Even under women seeking women (looking for threesomes). The heterosexual world has their deviance's too. We are all the same. I don't understand why we are pin pointed as differently, oh wait, I do know, follow the person that is doing the pointing.
We are not different then straights, it is just that the straights forget that.